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Weekly Blog Roundup for Saturday, February 3, 2018

Short and sweet this week; I’ve been working insane hours at the day job.

As a reminder, I’m running free standard shipping on everything in my Etsy shop. Check it out if you’re looking for a Valentine’s gift, or just something to relieve the miserable cold doldrums of February.

Arlo HD Security Camera Review from The Exquisite Equine
Useful information on a nifty product.

Monday Question: Bedding from The Feral Red Horse
Any advice on bedding, the different types thereof?

Head, Heart, Soul from In Omnia Paratus
❤ ❤ ❤

Not allowed to change from Incidents of Guidance
Really good & interesting clinic review.

THE RANGE BOOK from Go Big or Go Home
I love this format for tracking rides.

Quilted Ponies from DIY Horse Ownership
So cute. SO CUTE.

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Finance Friday: Let’s Talk About Budgeting

Welcome to Finance Friday 2018! All year long, we’ll talk about personal finances on the first Friday of the month, with the goal to getting us all in better overall financial shape. We know horses are expensive, and we need to be ready as we can for those expenses – both planned and unplanned.

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Each month, I’ll cover a topic or invite a guest poster to cover a topic. We’ll do an overview that takes into account varying approaches, offer up some additional reading (both from other horse blogs and from the personal finance world), and pose a question for everyone. We’ll also use these monthly posts as check ins for everyone on how they’re doing with the goals and obstacles that they laid out in January.

We’ll be relieving the stress of talking about money with gifs of cute foals.

This month, we’re starting at square one: budgeting.

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What is a budget?

Let’s start realllllly simple. It’s not that I think anyone is dumb! It’s that I want to start at square one so that we can explore some of the philosophy and utility behind budgeting.

Put simply, a budget is a tallying of finances. It accounts for money coming in (revenue) and money going out (expenses). Budgets can be project-based (say, a budget that’s written just for your show season) or they can be all-encompassing (every penny you make and earn in a given period). Most people use some combination of both. I see a lot of horse people with different levels of budgets – maybe one for just the show season, then a second for horse expenses, and then maybe a third for their overall finances. Like nesting budgets, each with different purposes and each at a different level of detail.

You can look at a budget from the point of view of expenses or revenue. An expenses budget would look at everything it costs to do something – say, have a summer of showing – and then tallies that money up to a total number that you either have to allocate or raise. A lot of project-based budgets work best in that way. A revenue budget, on the other hand, would look at money coming in and then allocate that money to different purposes – rent, food, gasoline, board, new tack, etc.

Budgets can have different levels of specificity. You can plan out your show season down to the smallest detail: gas to and from, food purchased at the show, hotel room, entry fees, trainer fees, a percentage off the top for shopping at the fair or contingency, etc. to infinity. Or you can make an educated guess: I know that an average entry fee is X, an average tank of gas is Y, and I usually spend Z on food.

The good news? There’s really no wrong way to do it. Go with what works for you. If granular detail makes you crazy, go bigger picture. If you feel more in control and less harried if you’ve planned everything out, then by all means sit down with a glass of wine and start making alllllll the lists.

The most important thing is that you budget.

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How do I create a budget?

There are two schools of thought on creating a budget.

The first says to take a period of time and to track your expenses over that period of time. Sit down with a highlighter, pen and paper, and start just putting things into categories. What are you spending money on, and where is it going? When you have finished, you have a clear idea of where you have spent money in the past, and so a realistic idea of what some of your necessities costs and what you’ve been spending on more discretionary things. You can then tweak your spending up or down in certain areas.

The other school of thought is more top-down, and it starts with your revenue. How much money do you make in a month? Start with that number at the top. Now start parceling it up. You do need some basic information to do this – how much you spend on major things – but the idea is more that you are looking at bigger categories and writing it a bit more aspirationally.

A subset of these two types is the two ways that you can account for things in your budget. You can either allocate every single penny – or you can allocate for the major ongoing expenses and categories of expense, and then let the rest be leftover – for fun money, or savings, or whatever you want.

Either way works for people. If this is the first time you’ve ever created a budget, then you have to do some of the work in the first way, just to get a clear-eyed picture of where they money is actually going. It can be a good idea to revisit it after major life changes to see if you need to tweak it.

I tend to hold with the second: I look at what my monthly income is, and write a budget from there. I also dedicate every single penny of my income to some purpose – which means I have four different budget categories for savings accounts, with according monthly transfers. I find that method a bit easier for those of us who might not make a whole ton of money (yay nonprofits!). It’s not like I have enough money and am just spending it in slightly unwise ways. There’s never enough, and I need to give every single penny a job to do, and keep it in marching order.

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Budgets only work if…

1.) You track your expenses. There are a lot of ways to do this. You can use online services like Mint or You Need a Budget, and some banks also provide budgeting tools online. You can use a simple Excel spreadsheet held in a place that you can get to easily – say in Google Docs or Dropbox. You can use good old-fashioned pen and paper. The only right way to do it is the way that works best for you, that holds you accountable and gets you to track every penny you spend. Yes, all of it. Make it an ironclad habit.

2.) You’re honest with yourself. Actually, none of this personal finance stuff works if you’re lying to yourself. That includes “yes, I will totally only spend $20 this month on going out with friends!” and “it’s fine, I know my budget line says this but I can totally make that up by doing less later in the month!” No one on earth is so perfect that they don’t feel the temptation to lie to themselves about this stuff. We all justify, prevaricate, and squirm when we’re faced with these internal narratives. We’re human, and that’s okay! The best way to deal with it is to understand and be kind to ourselves, but also be clear-eyed and honest as much as possible.

3) You hold yourself accountable. That means two things: first, it means picking a regular time (weekly, monthly, whatever) to check in and ask questions. Did I track everything this week? Do I have to fill in gaps? Did I go overboard on one thing? What’s my realistic plan for getting to the end of this period and still meeting my goals? What do I still have left that needs to get done, and do I have enough in the budget to do that? What should I say yes or no to based on the answers to those questions? Second, it also means also asking big questions of your budget each month. Does it need to be adjusted more generally? Were you too hard on yourself when you set a certain goal? Not hard enough? Did you have a major or minor life change that means you need to rethink some of your planning?

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In Conclusion

Budgets are tools. Think of them like crops: they can be horrible or they can be useful, entirely depending on how they’re applied. They not in themselves inherently bad. I think a lot of times when we say “on a budget” or “not in my budget” we’re thinking in terms of a negative. We feel like budgets don’t let us do the things we really want.

If you think that way, reframe it. Budgets are a way for you to do the things that you really want. They are a neutral tool that you can pick up and use in your life to achieve great things. That doesn’t mean they’re easy, quick, or even simple. But it doe mean that if you work with them instead of against them, you’ll get a lot further.

Additional Reading

The Dangers of Heroic Budgeting from The Simple Dollar (and my response) – why going overboard can set you back
Changing the Ways I Save for Horse Shows from Cob Jockey – a good example of project-based budgeting
2017 Equine Expenditures from Hand Gallop – and here’s an overall horse budget
Our Budget from The Horse Rescue – this is a really detailed projected budget for what it would take to rescue a certain number of horses, and it can easily be adapted to your situation too
Doing the Math from Bel Joeor – an accounting I did of every penny I spent on one specific veterinary issue
These 4 Easy Steps Will Teach You How To Budget (Finally) from Money Under 30 – yes, it’s a clickbaity title, but it breaks down a lot of the steps in creating a budget and fleshes out the psychology behind them
The 50/20/30 Rule for Minimalist Budgeting from Mint Life – too may steps? here’s a really simple approach
Horses are Expensive from Not So Speedy Dressage – a phenomenal example of tracking expenses, actually a series of posts over the course of a year

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Feedback & Check In

So, do you have a budget, whether project-specific or overall? What works for you, and what doesn’t? Is there anything that you’ve learned the hard way?

And: let’s check in! How are you doing on that goal you set for yourself? Give yourself a good old-fashioned letter grade, and think a little bit on what you can change for next month if it didn’t go great. If it did go well, think about what really worked for you. Similarly, how are you doing at that obstacle you named?

Feel free to answer in the comments, in your own head, or on your own blog.

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Bel Joeor February Sale!

Let’s face it: February sucks. It’s long and cold and dark and even though it’s the shortest month, it feels like the longest.

I’m fighting that this year by doing a free shipping sale in my Etsy store. EVERYTHING ships for free (via USPS first class).

If you order in the next week or so, that means it will arrive in plenty of time for Valentine’s Day. Buck the trend of commercialism and celebrate Galentine’s Day [tm Leslie Knope] instead: get something for your barn friends!

I’ve highlighted a few things below, but there are loads more available, and I’ll be adding another batch in a week or so.

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Finance Friday: Coming Soon!

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This is the first and only reminder for an upcoming Finance Friday post. In two days, I’ll have the first of the new series, and I’ll be asking you to comment with updates. Or at least spend some time thinking about how you’ve done.

SO. If you totally forgot that you made goals, or if you haven’t yet made goals, here’s your 48 hour head start!

I spent quite a bit of time reading through your original responses and making notes and thinking and planning. THANK YOU to everyone who commented. I know it can be really hard to put your ideas and emotions about money out there in the open. I really appreciate everyone’s honesty and commitment.

Based on your responses, I can tell you we’ll be covering realistic budgeting, paying down debt, strategies for saving for small and large, short and long term goals, how to have more patience with your finances (and with yourself!), how to keep your shopping impulses to a minimum, and how to at least take a crack at the eternal personal finance problem: how to get more money. Whew.

Stay tuned for the first post this coming Friday, and remember to reflect on your own progress!

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Weekly Blog Roundup: Saturday, January 27, 2018

Here’s your list of interesting blog posts from the past week.

I’m also highlighting one of the bags I sell: this cute pink/green number! I’ll most likely have new bags coming in the next 7-10 days, and am planning a sale soon, so keep an eye out for that.

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Equestrian DIY: How to Make a Whip or Crop Holder from The Plaid Horse / DIY Horse Ownership
Cute and clever!

18 HORSE INSTAGRAM ACCOUNTS TO FOLLOW IN 2018 from Saddle Seeks Horse
I’ve been expanding my Instagram use to include more gorgeous pictures of horses and fewer teenagers begging for likes, and this is a good way to start. (I think I’m getting old?)

Loose Lower Leg? Might Not Be What You Think from Viva Carlos
HUH.

Learning to Fly from Journey with a Dancing Horse
This story made my heart happy.

Let’s Discuss: The Right Trainer and the follow up, Changing Trainers from House on a Hill
It’s really crucial to think these questions through when you’re choosing a trainer.

A Curvy Girl’s Guide To Breeches from Eventing Saddleseat Style
ALWAYS good to have breeches reviews from people who aren’t built like beanpoles.

THROWBACK THURSDAY: ULSTER BOOTS from Go Big or Go Home
I loooooooooove this.

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Old Movie Stars with Horses

Let’s talk about two things that are very near and dear to my heart: old movies and horses.

If I had my way, we would never have moved into the morass of color movies and Method acting. (Seriously, though, fuck Method acting forever. It’s the worst.)

So, happy Friday; I’ll round up some of my favorite old movie stars with horses, because in those days everyone starred in a Western or a period film at least once.

First, I’ll have you know that Carole Lombard lived my dream life. (except maybe for the dying tragically & young part? but: defining screwball comedy, famously smart and sassy, worked her ass off for charity, nailed Clark Gable at his hottest, yes, I will take all of that)

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Clark Gable looked damn fine with a horse, too, which he would have to. He owned a ranch with Lombard and they were avid racing fans.

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Barbara Stanwyck also owned a ranch. Despite the many Westerns she starred in, there are not a ton of pictures of her out there actually on horseback.

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Elizabeth Taylor had to learn to ride for National Velvet, and fell off a lot, and did not really ride much later in life. But there are some gorgeous photos of her from that movie.

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I think probably Ginger Rogers knew she looked fantastic with horses, but didn’t love them too much for their own sake. She was a city girl.

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She did get to do one of the great dance sequences in Hollywood history wearing a riding outfit to die for.

There are of course a million pictures of John Wayne with horses, but did you know as a young man he was gorgeous?

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I know, this one doesn’t have a horse, I’m just on a perpetual mission to let people know that their mental image of John Wayne is, like, 40 years too late. Because DAMN.

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Shirley Temple had a succession of ponies, obviously.

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Jean Arthur only did one Western that I know of, but it’s the best movie you’ve never heard of: 1940’s Arizona. Here she is on semi-famous stunt horse Dice, who put up with a lot during his career.

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Gregory Peck, yes please. I believe this is also Dice. Peck did a ton of Westerns.

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Joan Crawford did everything, including Westerns.

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Gary Cooper AND Ingrid Bergman, be still my heart. (This is a still from a very bad movie called Saratoga Trunk. If you thought a movie starring Gary Cooper and Ingrid Bergman could not be anything but perfect, well, I’m here to disillusion you.)

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Gary Cooper grew up in Montana, so he gets actual street cred here. Myrna Loy was born in Montana but moved to California, and despite having some really terrific roles in movies with horses (Broadway Bill and Love Me Tonight both come to mind) she was, like Ginger Rogers, a city girl who never quite looked comfortable with horses. Or pit ponies.

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Her frequent costar William Powell…also not entirely comfortable with horses. But he looked good being skeptical.

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I could look at pictures of Katharine Hepburn all day.

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She was famously athletic, a quality she shared with her longtime lover Spencer Tracy.

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I am not much of a Spencer Tracy fan, but…wow.

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Ethel Merman always looked good, and had the confidence to pull off…whatever it is she’s wearing. That horse’s face says it all.

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And finally, the original movie stars, Mary Pickford and Douglas Fairbanks. Can we bring this look back, please? If hunter shows had a cosplay/reenactment class in which I could dress like either Pickford or Fairbanks here, I would switch disciplines in a hot second.

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Obviously that’s far from an exhaustive list, but I had fun with it. Do you have any favorite classic Hollywood films featuring horses, or a favorite star that loved horses?

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Uncommon Praise

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the ways in which we talk about our horses.

There are set ways in which we praise them. They have good brains, expressive gaits, can take a joke, are easy keepers, have funny quirks, and more. The language becomes rote and set after a while, and it has its own internal structure. For example, when I wrote out “take a joke,” you have a clear sense of what that means, right?

Today, I want to hear about ways in which your horse is special that aren’t typical. What are the things you love and appreciate about him or her that don’t use words other people might? Not what you’d write in a sales ad so that everyone can understand his appeal – but the private reasons you cherish him.

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Here’s what I think about Tristan.

I love that he is wholly and unreservedly himself.

I don’t just mean that he has a quiet dignity – he does, most of the time. I don’t just mean that he has personality – boy, does he ever.

I mean that Tristan embodies a perfect blend of self-confidence and self-awareness. He has such a clear sense of his personhood (equine-hood?) that is totally lacking in doubt or equivocation. He engages with the world entirely on his own terms. He does not compromise the parts of him that are him, entirely. It doesn’t occur to him to compromise him.

It makes things harder, sometimes. For as much as I know he loves me, I also have a crystal-clear understanding that he exists wholly apart from me. He has a rich internal life and sense of the world, and a place in which he is entirely comfortable, without the need to relate himself to others beyond the equine negotiations that make up everyday social life. By that I mean – he understands the rules of a herd, and plays them, but he is not ambitious or insecure. He can usually be found on the edges of a fracas, biding his time and making choices.

You might say that I’m either anthropomorphizing or exaggerating.  Maybe I am. But I’ve known a lot of horses – and a lot of animals at large – and a lot of them are insecure or mutable. They see themselves very much in relation to others – whether of their own species or of humans. They’re highly sensitive social creatures whose personalities and outlooks can change depending on their company. There’s nothing wrong with that. It can definitely also be a desirable trait, in either a human or an animal. My dog, for example, is like that. A lot of horses are.

Tristan is not. Maybe it’s an artifact of being wild for so long, then neglected and on his own for so long. He was, for a full decade, just a horse. Nothing more, nothing less. He carries that within him still. It makes my life harder some days – everything between us is a measured conversation. Still.

But I love him for it.

So, is there something about your horse that’s not apparent to the casual eye? Something that you have to think through thoroughly to explain, but that draws you? Something that’s not the first, easy way you’d talk about him?

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2018 Winter Gear Roundup

I’ve done some fairly exhaustive winter gear reviews in the past, so that’s not what this one will be. Instead, it’ll be a short list of things that I continue to absolutely love and a few new things that are part of my routine.

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We’ve had a viciously cold year so far this year, and all of my winter riding gear has gotten a thorough re-test. Many days, it’s been too cold to ride (I’m looking at you, two straight weeks below zero). But on the good days, I have been pretty darn happy with what I’m wearing.

2018 has so far been the year of Back on Track.

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For Tristan, a saddle pad and hock boots.

For me, glove liners (which I’ve had for a little while, but only this year have I successfully integrated them into my glove rotation, underneath these knit gloves) and leggings (which I really just wear 24/7 sometimes. no shame).

I’m happiest with the saddle pad, by far. It has made an (anecdotally) huge difference in his warmup. He stretches down faster, loosens his back faster, and is overall more pleasant. I’ll do  more detailed review in the future, but I think adding it in during winter especially has helped a lot.

2018 has also been the year of vests.

Two from the rotation; I have two more now.

I know it’s not exactly original to be an equestrian who is obsessed with wearing vests, but it never really hit me until this year. Now it’s like some kind of Biblical revelation. They’re kind of fashionable? They keep my core warm? I can embroider them with the barn logo? YES PLEASE.

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Last but not least, the newest gloves to the lineup. I have a gloves thing. For years, I just did not love any gloves on the market. Now, as you can see, I have a Noble Outfitters Perfect Fit glove thing. From left to right up there are summer/mesh gloves, regular gloves, and the newest additions on the far right, the 3 Season Gloves.

These really are 3 seasons: they’re not good below 25F or so. BUT, they fill an essential ecological niche in that 25-40 range, and damn if they don’t fit me just as well as the regular ones! I can sometimes get them down to 20F, too, if I keep my hands really warm before putting them on, and I’m riding inside. (The trick to gloves in the winter is not to expect them to warm your hands up. Your hands have to be at least not-numb before going into the gloves; there are no gloves in the world that can help you once your hands are icey and numb.)

Finally, two standbys that I’m using obsessively. First, my custom quarter sheet.

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I use it every day. Still love it. Yes, it gets staticky sometimes, but I am blessed with a horse who could not care less. He makes a grumpy face at me, sighs, and gets over it.

Finally, the true MVPs of the winter gear lineup.

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Ariat Bromonts, the old style. Riding in the winter would not be physically possible without these wonderful things, which are going 9 years strong. The suede has rubbed down to leather on the inside, the velcro needs to be stitched back down, but they are still waterproof, windproof, and when paired with some decent insulating socks, I can wear them in any weather. I have comfortably hacked out in single digits in these. When (if?) they finally go, I’m going to give them a Viking funeral and probably cry. Okay, definitely cry. A lot.

Do you have any new gear this winter that’s really working for you?

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Weekly Blog Roundup for Saturday, January 20, 2018

PRIX CAPRILLI CHAMPION OF THE WORLD from 3 Day Adventures with Horses
I’ve always wanted to try Prix Caprilli!

WTF is Whiskey? from The Owls Approve
Whiskey is one of my very favorite internet horses, and this is a very cool contest!

calming supplements & the placebo effect from Zen and the Art of Baby Horse Management
An interesting long thinky post about how we mitigate horse behavior.

winter’s got me #triggered from ‘Fraidy Cat Eventing
I laughed pretty hard but yeah, there’s truth here.

An Antifragile Connection from Incidents of Guidance
This was articulate and thoughtful.

WE Lesson from Thee Ashke
The WE in question is working equitation, one of my favorite specific horse sports to watch.

Revamping the Med Kit from The $900 Facebook Pony
I do this on a semi-regular basis. It’s astonishing how quickly first aid kits get out of control.

How to make a wither tracing from Hand Gallop
This is crucially important if you need to fit a saddle fitting done remotely.

PONYTAIL PRODUCTS: HAIR CARE FOR YOU AND YOUR HORSE from Saddle Seeks Horse
I’ve been eyeing these for a while, so it’s good to get a review!

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Giveaway from Bel Joeor Metier!

I opened my Etsy shop about two and a half months ago now, and I’ve been really happy with it. I have handy bags, which are multi-use bags about the size of a cosmetic bag, small handy bags, and saddle covers, and plans for more items to come in the next few months.

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I added a whole bunch of new items this week, too.

It’s time for a giveaway!

If you win this giveaway you’ll get the handy bag of your choice from my Etsy shop.

To enter, leave a comment on this blog post with a link to the bag you’d choose.

You can also enter by liking the Bel Joeor Facebook page, signing up for the Bel Joeor Metier mailing list, or sharing this giveaway on your own blog.

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